“Those who stand at the threshold of life always waiting for the right time to change are like the man who stands at the bank of a river waiting for the water to pass so he can cross on dry land.”
-Joseph B. Wirthlin
You may say it to yourself or you may hear it from others, but take it from firsthand experience that any time you hear “We just need to wait for the right time” is a red flag. I understand that success often comes from doing the right thing, in the right place, at the right time, but if you are stalling/procrastinating/ stagnating waiting for the right time, things are not going well. I had personal experience with this coming from myself and from someone that I was told could “make or break” my company.
At the end of the day, if you aren’t moving forward in some manner then you need to reevaluate. What is making you scared to move forward? What do you think you need to move forward? Can you do it yourself? Is there someone you can ask for that help? I fell into this mindset when I finished my graduate program and was applying for incubators and accelerators. I fell into a lull because I felt that I needed those mentors and guidance to correctly do things. Yes, I have made some mistakes since moving forward, but nothing life shattering and it’s nothing compared to the progress I’ve made.
I don’t know if it’s easier or harder to ignore this sentiment when it’s coming from yourself or from an outside source. There are times when someone can be saying this to you with a completely valid reason. You need more materials, you need to show a little more traction or several other scenarios. These people are helping you to not jump the gun and lose a chance at something because you acted too quickly and when it was time for things to happen people have lost interest. They are telling you to work, so do it!
What you have to be wary of is when things don’t necessarily need a time limit or they are not giving suggestions for anything to be improved before they complete whatever action is in question. If this is happening, that person is probably using “waiting for the right time” as an excuse instead of telling you the truth about a situation. You can only be met with that response so many times before you realize that nothing is going to happen. Can you get out of that relationship? Can you speak with them and let them know that waiting is no longer viable? Sometimes you’ll walk out of the conversation with action and sometimes you’ll walk out of the conversation knowing a relationship wasn’t what it was promised to be and that it would be better to expend your energy and time elsewhere.
So, whether it’s coming from inside or outside, stop waiting. Go out and do things (even if they are very small.)